Saturday, June 16, 2012

Father's Day Memories

I had no idea how caught up I would get while searching through pictures for this Father's Day post.  Memories of my dad surround me every day, but it's been quite a while since I looked through his old scrapbook and all of my albums.  So many pictures, so many happy times, and so many wonderful memories.  Happy Father's Day Dad.  We miss you every day!


Dad was the youngest of three children born in Medford, Massachusetts.  When my grandfather died in 1935, they all relocated here to California for a fresh new start.  Look at
 that sweet Dutch Boy haircut and the Mary Janes.

 My grandmother saved every newspaper article related to his high school sports and
college football days at Cal Poly.

Korean War veteran.
There's a note on back of this June 1952 picture assuring his mother that he didn't
 fire this old canon.

Proud first time father to little ol' me.  
His dark wavy hair started to turn gray the year after I was born.  I must have been a
 real handful; thank you Dad for not blaming me.

Proud first time grandfather to my son Neil.

Always a comedian.
Here he is in the mid 1990s trying to sell himself at one of our yard sales.
$3.50 was quite a bargain because he was also a fabulous cook!

Father's Day is a tough one for me.  I know it's hard for so many of us when the mothers and fathers we've loved all our lives are no longer physically with us.  The best decision I ever made was to call my dad early in the morning on June 20, 2004 to wish him a happy Father's Day.  I hesitated because I knew my mom would be trying to rush him out the door for church, but I called anyway and we had a nice conversation about the barbecue they went to at my brother's house the day before.  Much later that afternoon while we were all getting ready to take Mr. MST out to dinner, my mom called and had to tell us that my dad was no longer with us.  It didn't sink in.  I can't even begin to get into all the details and emotions because I still feel it just like it was yesterday.  I keep thinking about that old quote "Never put off for tomorrow what you can do today."  It's so true.  I'm so thankful for that last phone call.

I wish everyone a wonderful Father's Day.  If you're celebrating with your own father, grandfather, husband, brother, or son, give them all a big hug!


32 comments:

Marsha @ Tattered Chick said...

Dear Betsy, what a beautiful post. Your father was such a handsome man. Love the one of him at the yard sale!

I am so thankful that my dad is still with us at 97. I KNOW the day is coming that he will no longer be here and I can't imagine not being able to hear his voice again or get a hug from him.

Love and hugs to you,
Marsha

Marsha @ Tattered Chick said...

Dear Betsy, what a beautiful post. Your father was such a handsome man. Love the one of him at the yard sale!

I am so thankful that my dad is still with us at 97. I KNOW the day is coming that he will no longer be here and I can't imagine not being able to hear his voice again or get a hug from him.

Love and hugs to you,
Marsha

Cindi said...

I'm so sorry you've lost your Dad. Mine is still with us, but mostly in body only. He was such an intelligent man and doesn't remember any of it any more. What really caught my eye in your post, is Cal Poly. My dad graduated from there in June 1952, an Architectural Engineering degree. It was such a small place back then, I'll bet they knew each other.

Full Circle Creations said...

What a beautiful tribute to your Father! Thank you so much for sharing it. I'm sure it's difficult for you but thank goodness you made that last phone call. I'm thankful my dad is still with us and hopefully after his surgery on Friday he'll be around a lot longer than he might have been.

Holly

Susanne said...

Beautiful bittersweet post. Although the date changes, the anniversary of my Dad's death will forever be on Mother's Day. Sometimes I think I would be grateful if it would slip by unnoticed, but it is what it is.
I am thankful for the good relationship we had and for him making me feel like I was his favorite.
Susanne.

Michelle L. said...

Wow, what a wonderful man he must have been to create such a beautiful family. The yard sale pic is just too silly and cool for words. What an amazing bond between you and your dad - even though you don't have him with you now, you are still going to wish him Happy Father's Day every single year. Great post, my dear Betsy, I loved it.

Maggie said...

Betsy, to lose your dad on Father's Day is so terribly poignant, but how absolutely wonderful that you got that last phone call with him!! This was a lovely post, and a great tribute to you dad. The yard sale sign was a hoot!!

~Lavender Dreamer~ said...

He was a very handsome man and I know he was a wonderful Father. What a good memory that you got to talk to him that last day. It's hard to lose you Dad...I know!

Karen Bates said...

What a wonderful post...one never knows when we might never speak to someone again. Thanks for sharing.

Anne said...

Betsy,
What a lovely post.Glad you had one last chat with your Dad.Fathers day is hard for me too.Not because my Dad is not here.But because I am not close.Actually I have a somewhat strained relationship with both of my parents.We do talk but it is very generic.They don't even know I have a blog!I do LOVE them both.But it is just the way it is :-( Not sure what I will post tomorrow.My husband is a wonderful Father.I will probably just post about him.
(((Hugs))))
Anne

Sherry@Back2Vintage said...

Great post, Betsy! I miss my Dad, too!!!

Blessed Serendipity said...

LOL so funny (especially that he is potty trained). I am sure he got lots of laughs.

Danielle

Glenda/MidSouth said...

I agree - very handsome man, and with a wonderful sense of humor. You do have some wonderful memories to treasure.
My Father died the Thursday before Fathers Day 6/14 many years ago, and this year the dates ran the exact same - last Thurs was 6/14.

Tammy's in Love said...

He could have had a job in Hollywood! What a good looking guy!

Thanks for the advice to those who have Dads and think they 'always have more time...' sometimes you don't.

Tammy

Ann said...

Betsy, what a touching post about Fathers Day. What a blessing it was that you followed through and called your Dad that morning. I agree with all the other posts that your Dad was "movie star" material. I lost my Dad 25 years ago when he was only 68 of cancer. He left way too soon and I still miss him so.
Ann

Linda @ Itsy Bits And Pieces said...

Your father sounds like a wonderful man, Betsy...you were blessed to have him as your dad! Thank you for sharing him with us!

Kathy said...

A beautiful post, Betsy! My father is gone nearly 20 years now and I still think about him nearly every day and wonder what he would think or say about what I have done and become. Would he be proud? I always try to make sure he is!

EllenaElizabeth said...

What a wonderful post about your Dad. Thankyou so much for sharing it with us all.

Diane Writes said...

Hi Betsy! Thank you for sharing you and your Father's story. I appreciate it whenever my blog friends share something about their family. Your Father is happily watching over you and your family.

Cindy F. Adkins said...

Wonderful post. I'm so glad I visited your blog this morning, as I was sitting here missing my Dad, too. Your Dad was so handsome and I love the garage sale photo. Really shows his sense of humor! My Dad passed away in 1996 and sometimes it still feels like yesterday. Your post really touched me.
Blessings, Cindy

Connie Mercer said...

awesome tribute to your dad!!

Peggy said...

Looks like we're both feeling the loss of our fathers today. I'm glad you were able to have that last conversation with him and have so many precious memories. I love the picture at the garage sale. It made me laugh. He must have been a fun guy to be around.

~ Laura said...

This is a beautiful tribute to your Dad!!! I _love_ his "for sale" sign!!! That picture right there says so much about what a wonderful Dad he was!! :) I also appreciate that he assured his Mom that he didn't fire that cannon!! As a mom of a boy, I totally get that!! That also shows what a thoughtful man he was!! :)

I had just hung up the phone after talking with my Dad and read your post and it made me get tears in my eyes for you. Thank you for sharing such a hard time...I have taken it to heart and will be calling my Dad more. ((((HUGS!!!))))

augcott said...

Such wonderful memories ... hold them close!

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autena said...

Lovely tribute, to which I can relate. Your father must have had a wonderful sense of humor!

lisbonlioness said...

... like I needed any more tears tonight... you made me well up with emotions I thought had been long since buried.
Whoa, that dude sure was a looker! I would have tried to chat him up anytime. What a wonderful man, inside and out.
You struck a chord when you wrote about putting off things. Every time I feel the urge to call my Mum I do it because I fear so much that the last thing I remember about her is the urge to call her and not the chat we could have had. It's so, so important to tell people we love them whenever we get the chance, it might just be the last chance we get.
I am taking away from this post the happy thought of you having the opportunity to tell your dad that you love him, which is such a wonderful thing to remember.
Don't be sad, girl, laugh with the comedian he was, be strong with the sportsman he was, love with the spirit he passed on to you.

lisbonlioness said...

... like I needed any more tears tonight... you made me well up with emotions I thought had been long since buried.
Whoa, that dude sure was a looker! I would have tried to chat him up anytime. What a wonderful man, inside and out.
You struck a chord when you wrote about putting off things. Every time I feel the urge to call my Mum I do it because I fear so much that the last thing I remember about her is the urge to call her and not the chat we could have had. It's so, so important to tell people we love them whenever we get the chance, it might just be the last chance we get.
I am taking away from this post the happy thought of you having the opportunity to tell your dad that you love him, which is such a wonderful thing to remember.
Don't be sad, girl, laugh with the comedian he was, be strong with the sportsman he was, love with the spirit he passed on to you.

Bella Rose said...

THANKS BETZ,
FOR THE NICE POST. I REMEMBER BEING AROUND YOUR DAD. HE WOULD MAKE US LAUGH SO MUCH, THAT OUR JAWS WOULD HURT FOR TWO DAYS AFTERWARDS. THAT'S WHERE YOU GET YOUR GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR!
I LOVE YOU!
ILTZZZ

Jill said...

We will always miss our own Dad - I do too, my Dad passed away 5 years ago this August!

Kathryn said...

Thank you for this wonderful post! It is wonderful to have a relationship with your parents that calling them is a joy not an obligation.
I lost my mom 16 years ago but she's with me everyday. Dad is 82 and going on. We're very close just not geographically. I'm still learning things about him that I didn't know. I think by his telling me about his life and doing genealogy keeps him going. And, I really appreciate him passing along all the information!
He looked like Elvis when he was in his early twenties!!!
Thanks again for your sweet post!
xo
kat

Julie@chiclittleshop said...

Oh. Betsy.
I have to thank your father for saving Korea, I am Korean-American, born in Korea. Korea wouldn't existed if the brave man like your Dad wasn't there to fought Korean War.

Julie x